Now, the actors themselves going ‘It’s a bro-scene! All of the bros are here!’ in the BTS videos is going to make me side-eye them. No, all the bros are not here. Despite Kurt pushing the gender norms in the most fantastic ways possible, he’s still canonly identified himself as a man. As a ‘bro’. So yes, it is a bro scene but they are all not present. :p
Look, I understand what you’re trying to say here, and it’s very valiant? of you. I guess?
Bro =/= Male/Boy and conversely, Male/Boy =/= Bro
Bro, as I have come to understand since hearing the term almost a decade ago, is slang for a type of person who ACTS a certain way. They are not always “men”. I’ve been called bro before, yet I identify as female. Are they wrong because I present myself physically one way and yet act “differently” in other ways?
I have no doubt in my mind that the boys of glee club consider Kurt a friend. A very good friend and, in some cases, even closer than that. But he does not bond with them in ways they consider “bro” ways, I’m sure.
And there is nothing wrong with that.
The fact that Kurt isn’t considered a ‘bro’ is not what I’ve seen most people have a problem with. Most people (that I follow at least, so I could be ignorant to a wider range of sentiment) understand that the term ‘bro’ does not unequivocally equal a male identifying person.
And while I have some slight pushback that Kurt doesn’t bond with the boys in ‘bro’ ways (those being the snippets of friendship I’ve seen between Puck and Kurt, and the fact that I think, unfortunately, Kurt’s ability to even have a certain types of friendship with the Glee boys has been tempered by their initial social positioning at McKinley), I understand what you’re saying in your last point. I agree, as well, that there’s nothing wrong with Kurt, for example, wanting to hang out more with the ladies of Glee club than the guys (as Chris Colfer said of the ‘Summer Nights’ song with Sam and Mercedes - Kurt would much rather gossip with Mercedes than the guys).
The problem I did see people having with the BTS video was the fact that the actors (Harry, I think, in particular) explicitly said: “it’s a bro scene. All the guys are here” which IS, in fact, a statement that attaches a gendered definition onto the term ‘bro’ that was never present before. Because, no, not all the guys ARE in the ‘Rain in Spain’ scene. Kurt, despite not being a ‘bro’ is still a guy (as he has echoed numerous times before) and the fact that the statement ‘all the guys are here’ was said about the scene IS problematic and worthy of critical attention. Because it’s wrong, and just seems to reinforce the unfortunate sissyphobic tendencies this show has notably employed in the past.